10 Time Tested Steps To Bring Out The Best In People
Have you ever wished to be the inspirer who can bring out the best in people?.. I know the answer would be yes; otherwise you would have not stopped by the post to master the ways to inspire others
You might be wondering how some people bring out the best in others? These people who we are familiar as successful leaders, chief executive officers, coaches, mentors and of course parents seems to have that extra talent with them to inspire others.
However, each one of us is born with the talent to help others to bring out the best in them in one or the other situation.
You can also be the inspiration to bring out the best in others if you master these 10 smart ways followed by others inspirers, to bring out the best in people.
1. Think Positive, do positive and act positive.
You yourself being the instrument for inspiration is the first step in bringing out the best in people. Your words and actions will influence the success of others around you.
Set yourself as the model for others to motivate them, to do the best.
2. Speak as if they already have done their best.
You speak as if they have already radiated their high potential to deliver high result. Instead of saying “ Do well, all the best”, say “You will rock”. This will instill a confidence in the person that he can do the task entrusted upon without any fear.
When you treat a man as if he is already in his potential position, then you are helping him to be what he really should be.
Realize that every person is multi-dimensional. One may have good and bad sides as well. It is absolutely fine; it is human nature. Accept it.!
Try to see the actual behavior of the person and the potential within him. Pamper the good person in him and naturally the real potential in him will emerge out.
4. Ask questions to know more about them
You need t o know the person better to help him bring out the best in them. For that ask brilliant and open ended questions like:
- Tell me about yourself
- Tell me the things you enjoy the most.
- What you like the most in your life and job?
- Tell me the plan you intended to choose to achieve your dream?
- What you want in life?
Asking questions will help them to get a good perspective of themselves and help you understand their needs as well. Understanding their needs will make it easier for you to motivate them.
Who knows the questions can lead someone to introspect himself
5. Pamper failure
Quite often, people when fails get detached from pursuing their dream. This is because from generations we are taught that if we fail in something then that is the end to success.
The fear of failure holds one back from taking bold steps to success.
Make them understand that failure is not something that is fatal and teach how to learn from mistakes.
Good Managers do not replace their employees for failures because they will never get another experienced candidate who can’t afford to repeat the same mistakes.
6. Be a good story teller
Every one love stories, isn’t it?.
Remember during your childhood how you get motivated hearing Super man stories?
Likewise, even adults can be motivated through success stories. People are more influenced by individual stories than generalized principles.
May be that is the reason why my mentor tells stories to influence our thoughts
7. Give gentle appreciation
Applaud and appreciate the talent. Find out the beauty, wisdom, talent, dedication of the people you are helping and appreciate them.
On appreciating, the adrenaline hormone will bring those chemical changes to the body enough to keep motivating them to do the best.
8. Get them to do team work
Be it achieving target or losing weight, humans tend to work best when teamed with others.
The support of the members motivates them to break through the obstacles and it retains the strength in them to achieve their dream.
In an organization, this will help the people to take up the responsibility of what they are doing and evaluate one another’s pieces of work to bring the best outcome.
9. Keep yourself motivated
Observe the inspirers who help others to bring out the best in them and you will find something common in them.
Can you guess what is it?
Well don’t piss off your head. I will tell you.
It is not the looks, education or talent but it is that they always keep themselves happy and motivating.
To keep yourself happy, try to associate more with positive people, fill your heart with positive thoughts and feel the satisfaction of the people you are helping.
You will not be able to inspire others if you cannot inspire yourself.
10. Don’t worry about the results
You may feel it contradictory to what I have told you so far.
But, yes I mean it.
You do your karma, help others to bring out the best in them and reach the maximum potential.
You should not be worry about the results. You can control only your thoughts and actions.
If you have got smarter ways to bring the best in people, then we would like to know about it through your enthusiastic comments.
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